A well-known Catholic blogress responded to complaints that Pope Francis, when Archbishop of Buenos Aires, said hurtful things about gays. He called gay marriage a deceit of the Father of Lies.
This blogress then shifted to the phrase "intrinsically disordered", which is how the Church sees homosexuality. What would it feel like to be "intrinsically disordered?" Not nice. Are these phrases hurtful?
Then she realized that since she is a bit of a fattie with a food problem, she, too, is "intrinsically disordered." Cool, no? So it's not so bad after all. I guess, says her adipose self, we're all kinda "intrinsically disordered" about something. Actually, comforting. So "same-sex attracted" Catholics really should be ok with it.
You're wrong, Catholic blogress. When the Church tells gays that we are "intrinsically disordered", it does not recommend that we cut back on the gay sex a bit and moderate that man-on-man action so that we lose the weight of sinfulness. It tells us not to eat.
At all. Ever.
See the diff, Ms. Lane Bryant?
PS. I understand the rationale for the Catholic rejection of homosexuality. It's a moral system whose priority is the protection and promotion of marriage and family. Anything that does not contribute to that is out of bounds. Perfectly understandable.
But what pisses me off is when they minimize what it means for a Catholic with "same-sex attraction" as their only sexual orientation. Because for most people, sexual activity is very likely to be part of personal love. So having an "intrinsically disordered" eros not only means no sex, it means no love. Yeah, friendship, blah, blah. You know what I mean.
The message to homosexual people is clear and it is damning: your deepest desire for full communion with another beloved person is sick. How can that not infect your entire sense of self?
So. I get the doctrine. Fine. But what pisses me off is when they make believe it's not a massive blow to the soul to have someone believe that about themselves.
It's not dieting, Ms. Culona Inchiavabile. It's starvation.