Re-watching a 1988 film, The Presidio, with Mark Harmon and Sean Connery and Meg Ryan. A good flick.
But Ms Ryan's character pulls one of the classic female dishonesty moves. She decided to compensate for her childish, cowardly and manipulative behavior by verbally attacking her father, pouring out a barrage of resentments, disappointments, accusations, insults, all the while following him at close quarters through their house, from room to room, pressing him as he attempts to move away from her, asking her to stop talking. When she finally makes the intolerable remark, the one that she knows will cut to his heart, he swivels around and raises his hand as if to hit her.
He holds back, but then her face caves, as if betrayed, with shock and accusation in her eyes. As if he has done something unspeakable. Suddenly he is the criminal.
She provoked and provoked and provoked him. When he reacted, not striking her, but showing the desire to, she blamed him, as if he had smacked a child all unprovoked.
And he, stupid fool, accepted the unspoken accusation and crumpled, horrified at what he wanted to do.
(When she clearly deserved a good smack across the mouth.)
I suspect more than one man who has been hauled off to jail as a "domestic abuser" was driven to it by this kind of female behavior. Women like to think that as long as they don't strike a man...and hell, even if they do...then they are blameless for any violent pushback they receive, the innocent victims of male abuse.
Eve was the first of her sex to deny responsibility for what she had done, but not the last.