What makes you think anyone is paying attention to you?
PS. I notice how "sending the wrong message" has replaced "setting a bad example." Must mean something.
UPDATE. "Must mean something." What it means is that people who use this phrase --liberals, especially, since I suspect they invented it-- see themselves as teachers (aka propagandists) of the masses. As the recently late Kenneth Minogue wrote, we are constantly bombarded by our liberal masters with "a stream of improving messages".
The repugnant Mama Michelle Antoinette Obama's hectoring about childhood obesity is just one example of the Secular Church of the Liberal State and Culture, obsessing about our attitudes and our private behaviors, "health and safety" Nazis, even requiring us to keep our "H8"-ful thoughts in line. Cause after all, hateful thoughts lead to hate speech and hate crimes, don't they? Every time you refuse to embrace gay marriage, gay kittens commit suicide!
I am no fan of Jimmy Carter, to put it mildly, but I remember how he was condescendingly mocked by the elites for piously confessing that he had "committed adultery in his heart" by his un-enacted sexual desires. This was not Jimmy's invention, btw, it was Jesus'. Matthew 5.27-28. Very puritanical and restrictive, no?
But for the Secular Church, "committing racism in your heart", well, that's a different matter altogether. That's serious. It is as avidly and relentlessly policed as any Victorian vicar on the lookout for a naked ankle.* The PC Vice Squad.
God, I hate these people (in my heart...)
If you say "set a bad example", on the other hand, you assume that people will choose, of their own free will, to imitate something that they may or may not see. Leaving them to their own devices like that, untaught, well that would be...irresponsible.
*On The Big Bang Theory, the two smarty White women correct fellow-White bartender/waitress Penny just for describing Rajesh Koothrapali as her "Indian friend." Racist!