Don't ask me why or how, but I have been reading responses to questions from married Catholics about the morality of oral sex for them. A level of detail rarely attended to in public discussions, and probably just as rarely in private.
So, gentle reader, whadda you think? Can a Catholic married couple legitimately engage in oral sex?
(Theme to Jeopardy plays in the background while you ponder.)
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I seem to remember that the validation of cunnilingus (on grounds that orgasm was necessary for female ?spermation) was a Catholic contribution to this end-run around official religion:
Peter Gardella, »Innocent Ecstasy: How Christianity Gave America an Ethic of Sexual Pleasure.«
Of course, an official ethic of sexual pleasure does not mean there's a real reality of sexual pleasure. ... Sex liberationists, sex-positive advice givers all still work from the symmetry that St Paul set forth re Mann and Weib but as if this works also for frau and guy.
Quite comprehensibly hetero guys are eager to implicitly agree that a frau of womangirl is basically a gay guy in the body of a womangirl. Marriage is still marketed to guys with this implication, including when conservative Christians admonish them "Sex is for marriage" (as if therefore marriage is for sex).
Car dealers call this method "bait and switch." Unfair to both frauen and guys. Yet frauen won't wise guys up because (1) they accept that it's shamefully "mousy" to not be sex positive (which apparenlty means having the same level of sex drive as a guy); (2) if marriage isn't for sex in a way that a guy would understand, then guys won't do marriage and all the things that womengirls wish for from marriage won't happen.
All because St Paul show'd a 'better to marry than to burn with lust' symmetry between Mann and Weib which is consider'd applicable to frau and guy.
Publisher's blurb for "Innocent Ecstasy":
»Though they disagree on virtually everything else, evangelicals and gays, Catholics and agnostics all agree that sex should be innocent and ecstatic. For most of Western history people have not had such expectations.
»Innocent Ecstasy shows how Christianity led Americans to hope for so much from sex. It is the first book to explain how the sexual revolution could have occurred in a nation so deeply imbued with Christian ethical values.
»Tracing our strange journey from the hands of Jonathan Edward's angry Puritan God to the loving embrace of Marabel Morgan's Total Woman, Gardella draws his surprising evidence from widely disparate sources, ranging from Catholic confessionals to methodist revival meetings, from evangelical romances to The Song of Bernadette.
»He reveals the sexual messages of mainstream Protestant theology and the religious aspirations of medical texts found at the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research. He sheds new light on such well-known figures as Henry Adams, Margaret Sanger, Aimee Semple McPherson, and Harriet Beecher Stowe, and introduces us to such fascinating, lesser-known characters as Dr. John Harvey Kellogg and Sylvester Graham, inventors of corn flakes and Graham crackers, who devised their products as anti-aphrodisiacs.
»While detailing the development of moral obligations to pursue sexual pleasure and to follow certain patterns of sexual practice, Gardella incidentally provides one of the few books to bring together the liberal Protestant, Roman Catholic, and evangelical perspectives on any aspect of American culture.
»Gardella attributes the American ethic of sexual pleasure to the eagerness of Americans to overcome original sin. This led to a quest for perfection, or complete freedom from guilt, combined with a quest for ecstatic experience. The result, he maintains, is an attitude that looks to sex for what was once expected from religion.«
But for all that, guys find that the marketing claims made by liberals and conservatives are false and that one can't marry for sex. Marriage is for love and the comfort of living with a frau. A guy can 'go elsewhere' if he doesn't mind supporting the prostitution of womengirls, or if he is prestigious or whatever enough he can get unmarry'd womengirls to give him the best years of their lives just for 'feminine companionship.' But basically the male sex drive is a problem without a routine solution.
yes...yes...YES! Oh, God!
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