ex cathedra: Face to face intimacy

Sunday, July 29, 2007

Face to face intimacy

While giving a course to straight therapists on working psychologically with gay men, I showed some clips from Brokeback Mountain, including one of the most moving screen kisses between men that I know.

After class, one of the therapists came and told me that it had been very revealing, because it had never occurred to this person that men could make love face to face. Doggie style was the only way they had ever imagined it and it had been a question for this person how intimacy could take place that way. Leaving that (incorrect) assumption aside, I assured the student that it was true: men can and often do have intercourse face to face, and even kiss while doing it.

And this is what it can feel like sometimes:

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